“What if I don’t wanna deal with them?” Here’s my honest answer. I’m excited (and a little nervous!) to share that the How to Deal with Asian Parents Workbook is officially published! This workbook is a deeply personal follow-up to my original book, built around the same five-step framework — but now with Read more…
Helping my parents with one form almost made me lose my cool… but I didn’t. Recently, I was helping my mom fill out some medical paperwork. Simple task, right? Wrong. Because the form was in my dad’s email. And they use his email address even though she has one because she Read more…
His little face crumpled. I knew I had to do something differently next time. The other day at camp pick-up, my kindergartener didn’t want to leave. He had swim lessons, but all he wanted was to stay and play. So he threw a tantrum — big feelings, big stomps, and yelling that he Read more…
The feeling wasn’t anger - it was something deeper. Here’s what I learned… The other night, my husband made a comment about the dinner I made. Something like, “This chicken’s a bit salty.” He wasn’t being cruel or unnecessarily critical. I agreed with him. But I was already on edge. For days, I’d Read more…
When you weren’t raised to name your emotions, avoiding them becomes second nature. Sometimes I still find myself annoyed that I’m not better at letting things go. I think, “You know better by now. You’ve done the work. Why does this still bother you?” But then I remember: growth doesn’t mean Read more…
Aging is a privilege. I’m still learning how to treat myself with kindness when I fall short. It sounds simple, but for a recovering perfectionist, the idea of self-forgiveness can feel like another thing to master. And when I don’t get it “right,” I start spiralling: “How have I done Read more…
Beauty isn’t a bargaining chip. I am not my husband’s trophy. I’ve spent years trying to forgive myself for being human — for messing up, breaking down, or not bouncing back fast enough. As a recovering perfectionist, I still wrestle with the idea that I can be lovable and worthy without being Read more…
“My value is not determined by how I compare to others.”…on repeat in my head. All of us know at least a dozen people who do not share all of our beliefs. With over 7 billion of us, there is bound to be conflict. I can agree to disagree on topics Read more…
Hello again… So it’s been a while since I’ve written a blog post here…like December 2023. I’m back(ish). 2024 was full of life changes. We sold our home. We bought a new one. We moved a block away, but that was still intensely chaotic, especially when renovations are involved…sigh. My Read more…
“My value is not determined by how I compare to others.”…on repeat in my head. All of us know at least a dozen people who do not share all of our beliefs. With over 7 billion of us, there is bound to be conflict. I can agree to disagree on topics Read more…