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13 Beliefs I Stopped Holding. But They Still Haunt Me (5-minute read)

“My value is not determined by how I compare to others.”…on repeat in my head. All of us know at least a dozen people who do not share all of our beliefs. With over 7 billion of us, there is bound to be conflict. I can agree to disagree on topics Read more…

By sumonsleeve, 1 weekMay 9, 2025 ago
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Sometimes I Wish I Sucked at Listening (5-minute read)

There are 3 types of bad listeners. Listening is a life skill. Everyone knows that. We’ve all seen self-help gurus, thought leaders, TED talks, psychologists, and the latest news and research share how we should all be listening more than we speak…especially in a society where attention is scarce and distractions Read more…

By sumonsleeve, 1 weekMay 9, 2025 ago
I Was Jealous of the Attention My Parents' Gave My Eldest Sister Until I Became Mom
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I Was Jealous of the Attention My Parents’ Gave My Eldest Sister Until I Became Mom (4-minute read)

I have 3 sisters. For most of my life, my parents put a lot of attention on my eldest sister. Then I became a mom and it changed everything. Anything I accomplished, my sister had already done it… There are three of us: my eldest sister, my middle sister and Read more…

By sumonsleeve, 4 yearsSeptember 22, 2021 ago
For years, I wore my engagement and wedding rings. Then the pandemic hit and I started thinking about what those rings actually mean to me.
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How The Pandemic Made Me Stop Wearing My Wedding Ring (3-minute read)

For years, I wore my engagement and wedding rings. Then the pandemic hit and I started thinking about what those rings actually mean to me. I got engaged in a botanical garden in Egypt. I was waiting in a gazebo while he used the bathroom. When he came back, he Read more…

By sumonsleeve, 4 yearsSeptember 21, 2021 ago
How the Death of My Sex Ideals Led to the Birth of My Child
Asian Culture

How I Stopped Using Sex as a Weapon When We Started Trying For A Baby (5-minute read)

When we started trying to conceive, I stopped using sex as a weapon. The journey helped me create a family and more intimacy in my marriage. My parents never talked about sex They barely showed physical affection towards each other; and when they did, my dad was always the one who Read more…

By sumonsleeve, 4 yearsAugust 19, 2021 ago
As an Asian Woman, Self-Work Means Creating Balance Between Collectivistic Instincts and Individualistic Urges
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As an Asian Woman, Self-Work Means Creating Balance Between Collectivistic Instincts and Individualistic Urges (7-minute read)

How to balance the collectivist instincts instilled through my upbringing and the individualistic urges influenced by my environment. Recently, I saw a TikTok video of an Asian woman getting her 23andMe results. In a mere 15 seconds, she opens the envelope, looks at it and shows the audience what it Read more…

By sumonsleeve, 4 yearsAugust 11, 2021 ago
My Daughter Called Me Out for Fighting With My Husband
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My Daughter Called Me Out for Fighting With My Husband (4-minute read)

After having a fight with my husband in front of our kids, I wasn’t able to do what my daughter wanted me to. I felt like I was repeating my parents’ behaviour but this incident inspires me to keep trying to be a better person. Fighting at a crosswalk It’s Read more…

By sumonsleeve, 4 yearsJune 10, 2021 ago
Why I Don't Expect My Friends And Family To Read What I Write
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Why I Don’t Expect My Friends And Family To Read What I Write (4-minute read)

I started my blog in 2017, do I expect my friends and family to read everything I write? No, I actually prefer they don’t read my blog. Six degrees of separation When I first started blogging, I had no idea who was going to read my stuff. It was a Read more…

By sumonsleeve, 4 yearsApril 9, 2021 ago
9 Asian Female Stereotypes That Need To Die
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9 Asian Female Stereotypes That Need To Die (4-minute read)

As an Asian woman, I get discriminated against for being female and for being Asian. Here are 9 Asian female stereotypes that need to die. Why not both? I wish this meant I having both soft and hard tacos but instead it’s experiencing both sexism and racism as an Asian woman. Read more…

By sumonsleeve, 4 yearsApril 6, 2021 ago
5 Valuable Life Lessons I Learned From My Exes
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5 Valuable Life Lessons I Learned From My Exes (6-minute read)

I used to believe I needed to forget my exes; however, that experience taught me so much about myself. 5 valuable life lessons learned from my past relationships. I used to believe I needed to forget my exes When I was younger, I would cringe with regret whenever a random thought popped Read more…

By sumonsleeve, 4 yearsMarch 31, 2021 ago

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Katharine Chan has over a decade of experience working in healthcare. She’s worked in emergency health services, mental health, women’s health, facilitating, coaching, and promoting honest conversations among healthcare leaders to enable organizational change. She’s passionate about putting words to her feelings despite growing up in a culture that hides them. She empowers others by teaching them how to love themselves, embracing their culture and improving relationships.

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