Honouring your parents doesn’t mean abandoning yourself. “You should be grateful for your parents.” “They uprooted their entire lives for you. “They did the best they could.” “They didn’t know any better.” “They sacrificed everything for you.” I’ve heard those phrases more times than I can count. And while yes, Read more…
I just want genuine conversations while we watch our kids play The other day, I took my kids to the playground. I was watching them laugh, climb, fall, and get back up again — doing what kids do. Another mom came by with her son, who looked about the same age as mine. Read more…
I grew up thinking gossip meant power. I was wrong. I’ll be honest — I used to think gossip made me special. And gossip, I mean information that is juicy, nasty, and exaggerated. It’s the truth bent for the sake of being dramatic, not for the intention of supporting the person being gossiped Read more…
I wasn’t raised to know my worth - I was raised to rank it. Perfectionism doesn’t just show up in how we treat ourselves — it shows up in how we compare ourselves to others. As a recovering perfectionist, I know what it feels like to spiral when I think someone else is “doing better.” Read more…
Survival doesn’t equal thriving, and our kids deserve more than that. Not long ago, another mom asked if I was planning to enroll my kid in math tutoring, French classes, music lessons, martial arts, soccer…you know — the full litany of extracurriculars. I smiled politely and said, “Actually, I was that kid.” The Read more…
After having a fight with my husband in front of our kids, I wasn’t able to do what my daughter wanted me to. I felt like I was repeating my parents’ behaviour but this incident inspires me to keep trying to be a better person. Fighting at a crosswalk It’s Read more…
Mothers are often hard on themselves and feel like they’re not good enough. Here’s what to do when you feel like an inadequate parent. Dropping the ball and picking it back up. Obviously, I know there’s no such thing as a perfect mom In my home, socks are unmatched. The laundry Read more…
Parents are not good or evil, heroes or villains. Seeing them as humans let us practice empathy and compassion for others and ourselves. “Respect your parents! They did so much for you.” As the author of the book “How To Deal With Asian Parents”, it’s obvious I’ve struggled with the relationship Read more…
Because women aren’t the only ones who can be nurturing human beings. Duh! Let’s time travel back to about 3 years ago. It’s 3:00 am. My daughter’s hunger cries wake me up. I get up, trudge over to her crib, pick her up and yawn. It’s 3:05 am. I’m sitting Read more…
What do new moms really need to hear during those first months with their newborns? When a baby is born, a mother is also born. Some people may not realize this because all they focus on is the baby. We can’t blame them since babies are the epitome of joy. Read more…