After having a fight with my husband in front of our kids, I wasn’t able to do what my daughter wanted me to. I felt like I was repeating my parents’ behaviour but this incident inspires me to keep trying to be a better person. Fighting at a crosswalk It’s Read more…
Mothers are often hard on themselves and feel like they’re not good enough. Here’s what to do when you feel like an inadequate parent. Dropping the ball and picking it back up. Obviously, I know there’s no such thing as a perfect mom In my home, socks are unmatched. The laundry Read more…
Parents are not good or evil, heroes or villains. Seeing them as humans let us practice empathy and compassion for others and ourselves. “Respect your parents! They did so much for you.” As the author of the book “How To Deal With Asian Parents”, it’s obvious I’ve struggled with the relationship Read more…
EPISODE 22: HOW I LEARNED TO EMBRACE MY CHINESE CANADIAN CULTURE https://youtu.be/sjSsXmQlzAI “In my life, I’ve been called many things.” Growing up in the 90s in a predominantly Caucasian community, I got the usual questions and comments. Here’s a sample with answers I should have given back instead of silently Read more…
EPISODE 21: 3 THINGS ASIAN PARENTS WITH GROWN KIDS NEED TO STOP DOING https://youtu.be/17fPVsje91k You can’t seem to get through to your 20 something or 30 something-year-old “kid”. They don’t want to talk to you. At family dinner, they’re on their phones, not much eye contact or they’ll bark one-word Read more…
An interview with Hoang Samuelson Writer. Mom. Expert coffee drinker. Early riser. She writes about money, culture, work and families www.lilyplusjames.com The other day, I was googling “Asian parents,” gathering ideas for blog ideas, when I stumbled upon a wonderfully written article in Medium, titled, “What it’s like to grow Read more…
EPISODE 14: WHY I DON’T CARE IF MY CHILD CLIMBS THE CORPORATE LADDER (EVEN THOUGH I’M AN ASIAN MOM) “Doctor or Lawyer. Anything else is not good enough” Ok so my parents have never said that to me and generally, they’ve been pretty good about respecting my career decisions. They’ve Read more…
EPISODE 6: HOW BEING RAISED BY IMMIGRANT PARENTS AFFECTS YOUR RELATIONSHIPS WITH OTHERS https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zTTUmqUta-U& My daughter and I have this routine where we make muffins together every weekend while my husband, Brian does his open houses. Recently, we were having breakfast when I mention to Brian that I’m going to Read more…