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For years, I wore my engagement and wedding rings. Then the pandemic hit and I started thinking about what those rings actually mean to me.
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How The Pandemic Made Me Stop Wearing My Wedding Ring (3-minute read)

For years, I wore my engagement and wedding rings. Then the pandemic hit and I started thinking about what those rings actually mean to me. I got engaged in a botanical garden in Egypt. I was waiting in a gazebo while he used the bathroom. When he came back, he Read more…

By sumonsleeve, 4 yearsSeptember 21, 2021 ago
How the Death of My Sex Ideals Led to the Birth of My Child
Asian Culture

How I Stopped Using Sex as a Weapon When We Started Trying For A Baby (5-minute read)

When we started trying to conceive, I stopped using sex as a weapon. The journey helped me create a family and more intimacy in my marriage. My parents never talked about sex They barely showed physical affection towards each other; and when they did, my dad was always the one who Read more…

By sumonsleeve, 4 yearsAugust 19, 2021 ago
As an Asian Woman, Self-Work Means Creating Balance Between Collectivistic Instincts and Individualistic Urges
Asian Culture

As an Asian Woman, Self-Work Means Creating Balance Between Collectivistic Instincts and Individualistic Urges (7-minute read)

How to balance the collectivist instincts instilled through my upbringing and the individualistic urges influenced by my environment. Recently, I saw a TikTok video of an Asian woman getting her 23andMe results. In a mere 15 seconds, she opens the envelope, looks at it and shows the audience what it Read more…

By sumonsleeve, 4 yearsAugust 11, 2021 ago
9 Asian Female Stereotypes That Need To Die
Asian Culture

9 Asian Female Stereotypes That Need To Die (4-minute read)

As an Asian woman, I get discriminated against for being female and for being Asian. Here are 9 Asian female stereotypes that need to die. Why not both? I wish this meant I having both soft and hard tacos but instead it’s experiencing both sexism and racism as an Asian woman. Read more…

By sumonsleeve, 4 yearsApril 6, 2021 ago
When a husband says "My wife won't let me", he's actually masking his insecurities. It's time to empower men to own their choices in life.
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Why Saying “My Wife Won’t Let Me” Stunts Your Growth (6-minute read)

When a husband says “My wife won’t let me”, he’s actually masking his insecurities. It’s time to empower men to own their choices in life. It goes beyond outdated gender expectations. Disclaimer: Even though I focused this post on married heterosexual men, it doesn’t mean that other genders don’t use their Read more…

By sumonsleeve, 4 yearsDecember 1, 2020 ago
saying sorry when you shouldn't and not saying it when you should
Asian Culture

Stop apologizing for the wrong reasons and start apologizing when it matters

When should you apologize? What happens when we don’t and when we do? Sorry not sorry… I love the urban dictionary’s definition.  Sorry not sorry: “A sarcastic way of acknowledging that someone might not like whatever you’re saying or doing … but you don’t really care.” Saying sorry can either be Read more…

By sumonsleeve, 5 yearsApril 9, 2020 ago
It's being at work and feeling guilty about not being at home. Then it's being at home and feeling guilty about not being at work. Will Millennial moms be the last generation to experience this?
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3 Reasons Why Working Mom Guilt Will Cease To Exist (6-Minute Read)

It’s being at work and feeling guilty about not being at home. Then it’s being at home and feeling guilty about not being at work. Last November, I experienced my first bout of working mom guilt. I shared some helpful tips for how I was managing these feelings. However, the Read more…

By sumonsleeve, 6 yearsMay 15, 2019 ago
Asian Culture

Getting To Know Our Vaginas By Doing A 28-Day Kegel Challenge

Let’s get comfortable talking about our vaginas, breaking through taboos and redefining how we think about women’s health Vagina. Kegels. Vulva. Clitoris. Labia. Female genitalia. How do you feel when you hear these words? Skirmish? Icky? Giggly? Growing up as an Asian Canadian Growing up as an Asian Canadian, talking about Read more…

By sumonsleeve, 6 yearsMay 9, 2019 ago
when you're a woman and you get labelled a bitch
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WHEN YOU’RE A WOMAN AND YOU GET LABELED AN RBF (RESTING B*TCH FACE)

EPISODE 15: WHEN YOU’RE A WOMAN AND YOU GET LABELED A “B*TCH” Ladies, have you ever been in a public location (like waiting for the bus, buying groceries or getting your fix at Starbucks) and a man comes up to you and tells you to smile? Like he says, “Turn Read more…

By sumonsleeve, 6 yearsMarch 24, 2019 ago
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Why I Don’t Put Photos Of My Child’s Face On Social Media (3 minute read)

First of all, I don’t judge a parent for sharing pictures of their kids on social media. It’s a personal choice and ultimately, it’s what works for their family. I don’t know how many photos and videos I have of my daughter but I know there are a lot. Like other Read more…

By sumonsleeve, 6 yearsDecember 21, 2018 ago

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Katharine Chan has over a decade of experience working in healthcare. She’s worked in emergency health services, mental health, women’s health, facilitating, coaching, and promoting honest conversations among healthcare leaders to enable organizational change. She’s passionate about putting words to her feelings despite growing up in a culture that hides them. She empowers others by teaching them how to love themselves, embracing their culture and improving relationships.

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