Aging is a privilege. I’m still learning how to treat myself with kindness when I fall short. It sounds simple, but for a recovering perfectionist, the idea of self-forgiveness can feel like another thing to master. And when I don’t get it “right,” I start spiralling: “How have I done Read more…
Beauty isn’t a bargaining chip. I am not my husband’s trophy. I’ve spent years trying to forgive myself for being human — for messing up, breaking down, or not bouncing back fast enough. As a recovering perfectionist, I still wrestle with the idea that I can be lovable and worthy without being Read more…
For years, I wore my engagement and wedding rings. Then the pandemic hit and I started thinking about what those rings actually mean to me. I got engaged in a botanical garden in Egypt. I was waiting in a gazebo while he used the bathroom. When he came back, he Read more…
When we started trying to conceive, I stopped using sex as a weapon. The journey helped me create a family and more intimacy in my marriage. My parents never talked about sex They barely showed physical affection towards each other; and when they did, my dad was always the one who Read more…
How to balance the collectivist instincts instilled through my upbringing and the individualistic urges influenced by my environment. Recently, I saw a TikTok video of an Asian woman getting her 23andMe results. In a mere 15 seconds, she opens the envelope, looks at it and shows the audience what it Read more…
As an Asian woman, I get discriminated against for being female and for being Asian. Here are 9 Asian female stereotypes that need to die. Why not both? I wish this meant I having both soft and hard tacos but instead it’s experiencing both sexism and racism as an Asian woman. Read more…
When a husband says “My wife won’t let me”, he’s actually masking his insecurities. It’s time to empower men to own their choices in life. It goes beyond outdated gender expectations. Disclaimer: Even though I focused this post on married heterosexual men, it doesn’t mean that other genders don’t use their Read more…
When should you apologize? What happens when we don’t and when we do? Sorry not sorry… I love the urban dictionary’s definition. Sorry not sorry: “A sarcastic way of acknowledging that someone might not like whatever you’re saying or doing … but you don’t really care.” Saying sorry can either be Read more…
It’s being at work and feeling guilty about not being at home. Then it’s being at home and feeling guilty about not being at work. Last November, I experienced my first bout of working mom guilt. I shared some helpful tips for how I was managing these feelings. However, the Read more…
Let’s get comfortable talking about our vaginas, breaking through taboos and redefining how we think about women’s health Vagina. Kegels. Vulva. Clitoris. Labia. Female genitalia. How do you feel when you hear these words? Skirmish? Icky? Giggly? Growing up as an Asian Canadian Growing up as an Asian Canadian, talking about Read more…