Ever met someone who is never impressed, constantly disappointed in others and sets unattainable expectations? Nothing is good enough I am guilty of being overly critical. It’s an unfortunate behaviour for recovering perfectionists. I’ve been that toxic asshole who was constantly ragging on others, pointing out their weaknesses and offering Read more…
How can you be vulnerable so you deepen relationships without divulging too much? Ever watch a couple get divorced on Facebook? Have you ever seen someone on Facebook or Twitter or whatever social media channel detail their entire life for the world to see? From that nasty hemorrhoid that they Read more…
Think you’ve found the one? Make sure you’re on the same page with these 4 things. Only 4 things? Seriously? While getting ideas from friends, family and other blogs for this post, I heard tons of things that felt important to talk about. This could blog post could have easily Read more…
We all want what’s best for our husbands. But when do we become over-responsible for their well-being? What is ‘Over-functioning’? The other day, I came across the term ‘over-functioning’ while browsing through some self-help articles. It’s a type of behaviour where someone manages their anxiety by functioning for others who Read more…
EPISODE 22: HOW I LEARNED TO EMBRACE MY CHINESE CANADIAN CULTURE https://youtu.be/sjSsXmQlzAI “In my life, I’ve been called many things.” Growing up in the 90s in a predominantly Caucasian community, I got the usual questions and comments. Here’s a sample with answers I should have given back instead of silently Read more…
Oh, God, I hate fighting with my husband. Not the bickering (although sometimes it starts off like that) but the real, hard, painful, values pinching type of fights. The thought of fighting makes me want to crawl into a cave and wait for everything to settle down. I don’t want Read more…
EPISODE 21: 3 THINGS ASIAN PARENTS WITH GROWN KIDS NEED TO STOP DOING https://youtu.be/17fPVsje91k You can’t seem to get through to your 20 something or 30 something-year-old “kid”. They don’t want to talk to you. At family dinner, they’re on their phones, not much eye contact or they’ll bark one-word Read more…
EPISODE 14: WHY I DON’T CARE IF MY CHILD CLIMBS THE CORPORATE LADDER (EVEN THOUGH I’M AN ASIAN MOM) “Doctor or Lawyer. Anything else is not good enough” Ok so my parents have never said that to me and generally, they’ve been pretty good about respecting my career decisions. They’ve Read more…
EPISODE 6: HOW BEING RAISED BY IMMIGRANT PARENTS AFFECTS YOUR RELATIONSHIPS WITH OTHERS https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zTTUmqUta-U& My daughter and I have this routine where we make muffins together every weekend while my husband, Brian does his open houses. Recently, we were having breakfast when I mention to Brian that I’m going to Read more…
How I started sharing the invisible, mental, workload of motherhood with my husband and why it is working for our marriage. So it’s been over a year since I wrote about How I Stopped Resenting My Husband After Our Daughter Was Born. How has it been since? Smooth sailing? No. Read more…