When should you apologize? What happens when we don’t and when we do? Sorry not sorry… I love the urban dictionary’s definition. Sorry not sorry: “A sarcastic way of acknowledging that someone might not like whatever you’re saying or doing … but you don’t really care.” Saying sorry can either be Read more…
People need the right voice to get through to them (and it’s okay if it’s not yours) You tell your friend about the KETO diet you’re on, the workout you’re doing, the meditation app you’re using, the fertilizer you’re using for your lawn…they still haven’t lost the weight, they’re still Read more…
Our Asian immigrant parents’ worked the 9-5 to put food on the table. How can they understand that you can make a living from your side hustle? The other day, I was picking up my daughter from my parents’ place when I get an email from Medium saying that I Read more…
Because women aren’t the only ones who can be nurturing human beings. Duh! Let’s time travel back to about 3 years ago. It’s 3:00 am. My daughter’s hunger cries wake me up. I get up, trudge over to her crib, pick her up and yawn. It’s 3:05 am. I’m sitting Read more…
What do you do when you have an issue with someone? Conflict is inevitable because people exist Spouses fight. Families bicker. Co-workers disagree. Friends argue. Hell, even strangers on a bus have hissy fits with one another. Have you ever met someone who was always in agreement with you? His Read more…
Ever met someone who is never impressed, constantly disappointed in others and sets unattainable expectations? Nothing is good enough I am guilty of being overly critical. It’s an unfortunate behaviour for recovering perfectionists. I’ve been that toxic asshole who was constantly ragging on others, pointing out their weaknesses and offering Read more…
You dread seeing them and when you do, you feel like a warm body. Is it normal to not like your parents? Friday dinner at their house, Sunday morning Dim Sum, having your parents over at your place… How does it feel thinking about those things? Frustrated? Burdened? Dread? Like Read more…
From baby boomers to Generations x, y, z, can we really understand one another? My parents’ generation was more traditional. They were more conservative. Their parents were more strict. The didn’t grow up with screens and they didn’t raise us with screens. They didn’t have instant access to information at Read more…
What do new moms really need to hear during those first months with their newborns? When a baby is born, a mother is also born. Some people may not realize this because all they focus on is the baby. We can’t blame them since babies are the epitome of joy. Read more…
Two important life lessons I learned from spending an hour at the local Starbucks with my dad. A Chinese Canadian story that crosses 4 generations, spanning from Hong Kong to Canada. It’s Friday morning and I’m at my parents’ house working on my blog. My dad’s downstairs doing his thing. Read more…