Mothers are often hard on themselves and feel like they’re not good enough. Here’s what to do when you feel like an inadequate parent. Dropping the ball and picking it back up. Obviously, I know there’s no such thing as a perfect mom In my home, socks are unmatched. The laundry Read more…
Parents are not good or evil, heroes or villains. Seeing them as humans let us practice empathy and compassion for others and ourselves. “Respect your parents! They did so much for you.” As the author of the book “How To Deal With Asian Parents”, it’s obvious I’ve struggled with the relationship Read more…
Was he racist or sexist? As a woman of colour, I’m often in a tough position. We are vulnerable. How do I stand up for myself enough? Was it because I’m Asian? A few months ago, our family wanted to get fried chicken from KFC (Kentucky Fried Chicken). So I order Read more…
Millennials are often stereotyped as lazy and entitled. How does growing up with immigrant parents prove those aren’t true? Although, I do love my avocados… https://youtu.be/ClF2GL7y2SQhttps://youtu.be/rySNvjdhXj4https://youtu.be/EDmUatilDBg “It’s because they’re Millennials” I was born in the year of the Chernobyl disaster. For those who don’t know a lick of history, it’s Read more…
Immigrant parents often told their kids to finish their food; however, in this generation, it goes beyond the plate to reduce food waste. https://youtu.be/SpTUF57Or48https://youtu.be/Y9epwNN545Uhttps://youtu.be/z9-ovuBvMHAhttps://youtu.be/3WwvW4MeG74 It’s not about finishing your plate. A couple of months ago, our family went out to dinner for the first time since restaurants opened up. We were Read more…
Asian cultures value age in a hierarchical manner. I was taught to respect my elders. How has growing up in Canada affected my views? https://youtu.be/MWrJb79D174https://youtu.be/u6qHy6cHsFg The East and West battle inside of me The other day, I was leaving the grocery store when I saw a white man in his Read more…
As the mother of a girl and a boy, I will get a son-in-law and a daughter-in-law. What kind of mother-in-law do I want to be? Hopefully, one that doesn’t deserve to be punched in the face. https://youtu.be/nOe9mK_orqQhttps://youtu.be/GK9N4KUhgHc I have a daughter and a son. They’re both under 5 but Read more…
Asian grandparents often take care of their grandchildren. As a mom, how did I make this work peacefully without blowing a fit at my parents? https://youtu.be/822KEKqJzfshttps://youtu.be/bkdpFXP9_rIhttps://youtu.be/vqmuwDyPNu0https://youtu.be/JEF7Zz6U6Cwhttps://youtu.be/YpDc2TRCTaAhttps://youtu.be/_t62N7l3tJ0https://youtu.be/fl6FIPOguoYhttps://youtu.be/Gsqoyb6x26o How I made it work without pulling my hair out A year from now, my daughter will start Kindergarten. That means, no more getting spoiled Read more…
Asian moms are like magicians in the kitchen, cooking up a storm without the thunder and lightning https://youtu.be/NEqSa8bG3eo As a mother of 2 with a husband who has the stomach the size of a basketball player’s inside a small Chinese man, I cook A LOT! One day as I was Read more…
So earlier this year, I published a book on some strategies that helped my relationship with my parents. https://youtu.be/7jVgoZNsGJE The title of the book assumes that it provides the reader with a clear solution to their problems. But with any self-help, personal development, relationship advice book, the solution lies within us. Read more…