HOW TO THINK STRAIGHT WHEN YOU’RE DATING AND YOU FEEL LIKE YOU’RE GOING CRAZY

Life isn’t complicated.

Humans and their human stuff make it complicated.

And that’s what we do with everything.

Like dating. We get all messed up and can’t think straight.

I’m here to simplify it for you.

When you go on a date, it can only play out in the following ways:

1. You like them but they don’t like you

Do they never seem to like you but you like them?
Do you really like them?
Why do you like them so much?
Do all these people provide what you want, need and deserve out of a relationship?

2. They like you but you don’t like them

Are they always texting you back but you’re turned off?
Are you picking the wrong people to date?
Why don’t you like them?
What’s the common theme of their characters that makes them unlikable?

3. You both don’t like each other

Is it this unspoken feeling where you both are apathetic about whether you text each other back?
What made you both so incompatible?

4. You both like each other

Do you like them and they’re responding mutually to you?
Then keep dating and keep meeting up. See where it takes you.

Think about the last 4 people that you dated. Which categories did they fit in? Which outcome do you always seem to get?

When I was dating, I experienced all 4 of these.

And obviously, the first outcome is the worst feeling in the world. I mean talk about hurt egos.

I remember this one guy, on our first date, he brought a friend along without letting me know. And then he kept trying to get me to drink even though I told him I don’t like to drink. I mean, those are some red flags but for some reason, I still liked him. After our second date, he stopped responding to my texts and I was devastated.

But recovering from my hurt feelings, I realized there’s an obvious reason why these guys didn’t like me back.

And it came down to what I wanted, needed and deserved from a relationship.

I needed a guy who was confident in being who he was (without a sidekick) and someone who was considerate of me. He was neither and I only liked him because I wasn’t being true to myself.

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